Habits always count in life of successful peoples. Many people fall prey to the misconception that being liked comes from untouchable natural talents that only a few possess–the well-trained, talented, fiercely social, and the beautiful. It is easy for people to fall for this myth. Being likable can be yours. It’s a matter of EQ.
UCLA subjects rated over 500 adjectives according to their significance and likeability in a study. The top-rated adjectives didn’t have anything to do with being charming, intelligent, or attractive (innate attributes). Instead, the top adjectives rated were sincerity (another person), transparency, and the ability for understanding.
These and similar adjectives are used to describe people who can use the social side of emotional intelligence. TalentSmart research data that surveyed more than a million people reveals that these people are not only highly liked, but outperform those without them by a significant amount.
We did some digging and discovered the key behavior that emotionally intelligent people display that makes them so appealing. Here are 13: Crunchbase
They ask questions
When listening, people often make the biggest mistakes. They are so focused on what they will say next or how it is going to affect their lives that they miss what the other person is saying. The words sound loud and clear but the meaning is lost.
This can be avoided by asking lots and lots of questions. People want to know that you’re listening. Simple questions like clarification questions show that you are not only listening but also care about what they have to say. You will be amazed at how much respect and appreciation it can bring to you just by asking questions.
They have put away their phones
An innocuous text message during conversation or a glance at the phone will not turn someone off. Concentrate all of your energy on the conversation once you have committed to it. You’ll find conversations more enjoyable, and more effective if you fully engage in them.
They are genuine
Likability is all about being genuine and sincere. Falsehood is not something people like. People prefer to trust genuine people. It can be difficult to feel connected to someone if you don’t understand who they are or how they feel.
People who are liked know who they truly are. They are comfortable enough in their own skin to feel confident. If you are able to focus on what drives and makes you happy, you will become more interesting than if people try to win you over by making decisions that make you look like them.
They do not pass judgment
Open-mindedness is the key to making people like you. Open-mindedness allows you to be more approachable and fascinating to others. Nobody wants to talk to someone who already has an opinion and isn’t open to listening.
Openness is essential in the workplace. Access to new ideas and assistance requires that you are open-minded. To get rid of preconceived notions, judgments, and to see the world in others’ eyes, it is necessary to be open-minded. This does not mean that you should accept what they believe. It simply means that you stop passing judgment on them and begin to see what makes them tick. Only then can you accept them for who they truly are.
They don’t want attention
People dislike people who are looking for attention. To be liked you don’t necessarily need to have an extrovert personality. People will be more likely to like you if you are friendly and helpful. If you talk in a friendly, confident, and concise way, people will be more perceptive and open to your ideas than if there is an attempt to make them feel important. People will quickly notice your positive attitude and be attracted to it no matter how many people they know.
You should pay attention when you are given attention, such as recognition for an achievement. Instead of focusing on yourself, think about the people who helped to get you there. This may sound cliché but it will make you more likable.
They are Consistent
It’s hard to be liked if you are constantly moving around. People love to be able to identify the person they’re speaking with and what kind of response they can expect. Consistency requires reliability. You need to ensure that you are consistent in your behavior.
They use positive body language
You will attract people to you by becoming aware of your facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice, and tone (and making them positive). Positive body language is used by high-EQ people to bring others in. These include using an enthusiastic tone and not crossing your arms. Positive body language can make or break a conversation.
It is true that the way you speak something can be even more important than the words you use.
They make a strong first impression
Research shows that 72% of people will decide if they like you after just seven seconds. They will then spend the rest defending their initial reaction. This can sound frightening, but you can use it to your advantage and increase your likeability. Positive body language has a direct impact on first impressions. Your first impression will be a good one. A firm posture, a firm, positive handshake, smiling, as well as opening your shoulders to the person that you are speaking to, will make a difference.
They call people names to greet them
Your name is an essential part of your identity. It’s a wonderful feeling when people use your name. A person who is kind will make sure that others know their name every time they meet them. Don’t only greet someone by their name. Research has shown that people feel validated when they are referred to by the other person in a conversation.
If you have difficulty remembering names but are great at faces, then have fun! Do not be afraid to ask someone’s name again after they have spoken. You will need to know her name so you can remember it when you next see her.
They smile
People naturally, and unconsciously, mirror the body language they see in others. When you want people to love you, smile at them and you will feel better. London-post
They know when it’s time to get out of their way
Do not divulge personal issues or confessions quickly. You will be labeled as a complainer. If it is the right time, likable people will allow the other person to guide them.
They know Whom to Touch (and Touch Them).
Touching someone during a conversation releases oxytocin, a neurotransmitter in their brain that makes them associate you with trust and a whole host of other positive feelings. It takes just a touch on the shoulder, hugs, or a friendly handshake to release oxytocin. However, it is important to only touch the right person the right way in order to release oxytocin. Relationships are not just built by words. They are also built from feelings. Touching someone is a wonderful way to show that you care.
They find the perfect balance between passion and fun
People gravitate to people who are passionate. It’s easy to make passionate people seem too serious or uninterested. This is because they can get absorbed in the work. Likable people have the ability to balance passion and fun. They are friendly and serious at work, but also very approachable. They can still accomplish a lot because they are efficient socially and have the ability to capitalize on social moments. They focus on the important things in life, such as having meaningful conversations with their coworkers. They will recall what they said to you yesterday or last week, which means that you are just as important to them as their work.
All the pieces are connected
It is rare to find people you like. They make it easy for others to get along, create harmony in the office, bring out the best within everyone, and have the greatest time. Add these skills and you will see your likeability rise!
